And according to what he says, you must be doing something right. Other people will look at you funny and make fun of you for living the way you live. Having said that, I think the store was way out of line and I would have asked to speak to the manager right then and there.
Yesterday my son with unfortunately his father’s attitude toward money instead of his mom’s said to me
“Mom, if you had millions of dollars you’d probably still be the same, right?” Right…..his dad is gone now but at one time was a wealthy man and could have been extremely wealthy if he hadn’t blown it and died bankrupt. If something seems like it costs more than it’s worth I’m not buying it no matter if I had closets full of money.
They owe you MUCH more than an apology. I know from years in retail that her actions can get them sued. Now on to the frugal stuff. Remember the good old family ABCD, well they are at it again. C& D live in a portable building on A&B’s property. Well C&D are currently living with church friends because the septic isn’t working on the portable building and C is driving three times the distance to work (the only one of the 4 with a job) because of it—she’s often late which means that job too will probably go south soon.
A&B won’t help get the septic problem fixed even though it is their building (as in they are the landlords) and D is, well shall we say not willing to get his hands dirty. The reason A&B say they can’t get the septic fixed is because they don’t have any money. Yet they just bought a new used second car from one of those pay at the lot places….I know, I know see DR’s feelings on this.
Well this family is constantly giving US financial advice! According to them we are too tight with our money, that if they had the money we do they’d be living it up! They also think we are stupid for saving for things like car repairs and not replacing the truck, which is only 8 years old.
C was complaining to me recently that she and D are in a real financial bind and NEED a big influx of cash asap. I suggested that while D was at the library applying for jobs online (hint, hint) he check out The Total Money Makeover and both of them read it. She blew me off, and went on to complaining about how they never had any money. I tried to get her to understand at their age (early 30’s) they could get debt free, and retire young if they’d just do it. She laughed at me, stating that no one is ever totally debt free that there will always be car and house payments, then went back to complaining.
The next day I see on facebook that she and D had been at a fancy Italian restaurant for a fun night out the night before.
Me I just shake my head and tell myself 18-24 months.
My mom cried the first time she saw our farmhouse, and she still hates it because “I didn’t pay for four years of college so that you could live in THIS.” Oh, yes, I enjoy those conversations. And our friends regularly tell us that we need to “live a little”, like the guy who just paid good money to drive around in a Lamborghini. While I respect his right to spend his money his way, I’ll spend my money my way, thanks. But yea, it does get old.
I went to get groceries and I admit I looked rough. We are in the middle of a yard remodel. I had been hauling mulch, morter mix and etc. So, I get my groceries and everything doesn’t fit in the cart. I put the rest under. I get to the check out. I have the guy ring the bottom stuff first then put it back. As I am leaving a totally different cashier snatches my milk and makes a huge deal like I stole it. I went off. Then, later my new BIL asks my kids if they didn’t think I was too frugal. Mind you he is buries in debt. We are finally spending money on us and suddenly everyone is acting like we are some crazy frugal nut jobs. Anyone get this? I would have thought proving the program works would have shut them up. Mind you not that I care but curious what everyone else gets from others.
but also I trade with a couple of families that are different times in life, I no longer need diaper coupons, but the young lady down the street does. Our Commissary has a box that I can donate coupons I do not want and see if there is any I can use. On using them, I check with websites that match sales to coupons in the area, That has been a real help.
It’s time for me to start pulling out the gardening books anyway, even though we got snow today, and right at this moment, we’re being pelted with freezing rain. Gurneys sent our strawberries, potatoes and bamboo to us today. I have NO clue what I’m going to do with these right now considering my garden is still covered under snow. Anyway, enjoy, and no worries on when you get the books back to me.
I get coupons every week in the paper, in the mail etc. I am bad, I generally throw them away. I do this because I know of no one personally who coupons, and none of the coupons are for items I purchase, so what is the secret to making couponing work? If I mailed an envelope of coupons once a month to people would that be helpful? I do feel like I’m throwing food away, but….
I would lean to B, especially if you could clear up/pay off a debt (then you’d be increasing your snow ball month to month which will ultimately help #4) Can’t remember, what’s your outstanding debt w/o mortgage and payday loan (LendMe1000 site)?
If your BEF is the size is should be an where you feel comfortable, I’d skip. HOWEVER, if you have nothing in retirement, for example, I could be sway in this investing in an IRA.
I like #4, but if you can kill the debt entirely, this will help this area.
Let us know what you guys decide. So happy that the money is indeed yours to keep. Despite the fact that you had to pay it in the first place, it’s so nice you have it back as one lump sum. It feels so different when it’s a big chunk instead instead of small payments.
I’m not going to be much help on this because I also could form an arguement for each of your options
I guess if you were conservative you could put the $ in your Emergency Fund until you have a clear vision of where that money goes. However, if you are like me it’s easy to spend that money in the tim you are making your decision and wonder where it went.
What a great problem to have.
I’ll get onto one option and think “yep, this is the way to go.” Then something else will occur to me, or someone here will give another suggestion, and I’ll think “aha, THAT is what we should do.” So keep the ideas coming. Even if I settled on X as the way to go, DH will probably have some additional ideas of his own. Having a bunch of options, makes it easier to choose which one(s) is/are the best.
But I’m also thinking of DR’s recommendation to do whatever it takes to generate more income during the time folks are trying to pay off debt. For most folks, that would be getting a part time job to supplement their income. On a farm like ours, that means speeding up the pace to bring some new income stream into production. In other words, for every $100 we invest in the farm, we can then generate another $1000 (or more). So this becomes a really tempting way to spend the money – in ways that really dramatically boost our income. Hence the debate.
I finally tracked down the details for our $1234 refund from our mortgage escrow account. In short, it was thanks to the insurance fiasco we’ve been dealing with, which thankfully is just about finished. At one point the mtg company was under the mistaken impression that we had been without insurance for a year, and they arbitrarily assigned a new policy (in arrears, which is dumb because we didn’t have any claims during that time). When I pointed out to them that according to their own records, we had full coverage for the entire span of time, they not only issued written confirmation of that, but they also issued us the refund for the amount that they used to pay for that unnecessary coverage. I was on the phone with the escrow gal for a good while, working through all the calculations for that coverage, our cancelled coverage and the new coverage we just lined up. After it was all said and done, I asked “soooo, it looks like we get to keep this escrow refund, free and clear. Am I understanding that correctly?” She said “Yep!”
So, we have an unexpected $1234 sitting here on my desk, staring at me. We’re going to talk about how best to allocate it this weekend. But I wanted your collective feedback.
We would seem to have four basic options to choose from in terms of how to spend it:
1) normal monthly household bills, including the mortgage, as a way to have an “easy” month
2) pad the snowball and pay off, or pay down, a few debts
3) put it in our BEF and/or other savings
4) apply it towards our ongoing investment in the farm, in terms of equipment/infrastructure/supplies needed to generate more income
I can see strong reasons to do any or all of the above. I have also thought about just dividing it up four even ways, and applying it to each category equally. But I really don’t see any clear advantage to any one option. Does anyone have any suggestion for how to spend it, and why? Sort of a fun dilemma to have……..
I don’t know what’s wrong with me.
I’ve never been a big-spender, I’m frugal by nature. I’m the worst quilter in the world because I don’t buy fabric and I don’t “have a stash”!
We had avoided debt pretty easily, except our house, until we had so much car trouble and decided to throw up our hands and “be normal” for once and get a new car. We bought the cheapest one we could find and swore we’d pay it off early. That was last August and I’ve been obsessed with every extra dime we have going toward that car payment. We’ve paid almost $5k on it since then and now that my husband is working full time again, we will have it paid off in September. That’s four and a half years early! Whoo!
And now that our mortgage has switched hands, we have decided to keep rolling as much as we can on that rental house. We should have it paid off early 2015. Then my son graduates HS and I already have his future planned out for him!
Ok, here’s the “crazy lady” part…..
I have a 45-minute commute. Guess what I do on that commute! I listen to DR podcasts, sort of…. but I talk to him. I hold conversations with him, just like if I were calling his show. I get all kinds of good advice from him, too!!
I only hope that other commuters think I’m on the phone!
I’ll not call it a problem J My DH calls it “a bee in my bonnet”. I’ve started businesses, planted gardens, taken up painting, scrapbooking, home improvements, flylady, financial classes, reading, Dave Ramsey, the list goes on and on. Some have positive results, like beautiful scrapbooks we can enjoy for years, debt free lives, and an improved mind. While others cost money and don’t give much in return, like a dead garden and a box full of products I couldn’t sell.
I like it when I get obsessed with something because I become focused and gazelle. I like going at something whole heartedly and with passion!
Not much is buzzing right now for me. But I’m sure the next bee is just around the corner.
I was just on the phone with our broker on another matter and once we finished our business he politely asked me some questions about dmil. He is truly concerned about the financial situation she is in and wanted to reassure me that he is taking proper steps where dmil is concerned. He then asked how dh and I were doing emotionally with the whole situation. I surprised myself because I started crying. I apologized to him and said it was just she is the only mother I have left and this whole situation is killing both of us. That right now we don’t even know for certain where she is.
He said should we end up in court he will gladly testify for us. I told him how sil is opening charge cards in dmil’s name and maxing them and how she has cashed out the life insurance policy.. He is adding that to his reports. He is also putting a safe guard on the account in case she tries to use it for an asset for the cc. He says the woman has no idea how big of legal trouble she is already in and that if she makes another run at the money then his firm will be filing charges on her.
He guaranteed me that the money was going no where, and told dh and I to take a deep breath and relax that he is handling it now. I love that man!
Yes I said obsessed, not possessed. I have always had an obsession problem. I would get on a kick and every spare penny I could come up with would go on whatever I was obsessed with at the time. Like so many people I’d get depressed I’d buy something, I’d have a windfall I’d celebrate and buy something, I always had an excuse to add to my stash. The look of despair on my husband’s face as I’d lug in bag/cage after bag/cage of whatever the latest obsession was would be horrible. But I was driven.
Craft supplies, food storage, material, yarn, genealogy, poultry of all types along with all the equipment needed to breed and raise them, all have been past obsessions of mine. I have spent hundreds of dollars on each one of those, thousands on some. To some extent I still am slightly obsessed with a couple of them (food storage and genealogy), but nothing like I have been in the past. In the past I would spend hours looking for “deals” on whatever the current obsession was. Then I’d tell myself that since I was buying the items on sale I was “saving” money. Now I only search for things I truly need and only buy those when they are truly on sale. In fact I’ve not spent a dime on genealogy in about five years. Food storage has been close to 10 months, and then it was on a 20% off sale for only things we would normally use and were completely out of.
Soon I’d have more fabric, patterns, yarn etc than I could ever use up in five lifetimes and slowly I’d become overwhelmed with having so much and my enthusiasm would slowly fade. The end result would be a cache of the item that would impress any “collector”, a more cluttered home, a deeper debt, and far less money in our budget. The only good thing I could say was I did have it all organized and would be willing to part with it whenever I got the opportunity, so I didn’t qualify as a hoarder.
It’s been quite awhile since I’ve had such an obsession, or so I thought. Then today when I caught myself obsessing over the fact that it would only take $31.67 to drop a month off the number of months until my little BOA account payoff. Not pay the bill off, but to merely drop one month off of that date. Changing the scheduled payoff date to September 15, 2016 instead of October 15, 2016.
I was seriously combing every expenditure left out of this pay period looking to see if I could possibly come up with that $31.67 TODAY! I was a little down emotionally and I needed a feel good fix. I wanted that money to appear in the budget somewhere, anywhere. I needed a sale, I needed to pay that $31.67 NOW! I was truly chomping at the bit to do it. And of course I found $35 in a budget tweak and I paid it. Then I started immediately looking at how much I’d need for another month drop on any of the bills. Again, not the entire pay off (that number is far too large), but just cut a month off of ANY of the bills with the trickle down effect from paying extra on that BOA account. That’s when I realized. I’M OBSESSED!!!
We are so close I can taste it, which sounds dumb considering how close we’ve been running on the budget since the first of the year. 18-24 months, I want it and I want it now! Talk about a spoiled brat attitude. LOL!
So I’m here to say I am a debt payoff-aholic.
This obsession will end differently, however. Instead of extra junk in my house I am selling items off to feed this obsession. Instead of going in debt further I am obsessed with getting rid of debt faster and faster. Instead of ending up with less cash in my pocket I will end up with more. Instead of seeing despair on dh’s face I see instead the joy when I give him the good financial news. Each little achievement puts him that much more closer to the retirement he wants so badly.
It is also not an obsession I’ll get tired of. It is not an obsession that will end badly.
So now I ask, are you obsessed too?